#LivingInThePresent #TheMeaningOfNow
The Shallows of Love
Many people, throughout their entire lives, may only wander within the realm of suspicion, jealousy, seeking security from each other, and resisting temptation — never perceiving the many more valuable dimensions that love has to offer.
In intimate relationships, saying “I love you” is not the end of the story — it is merely the beginning. If, on this foundation, there can be deeper mutual inspiration and awakening, it becomes possible to rise to a deeper sense of intimacy and recognition — something far more precious.
Unfortunately, in today’s society, many people spend their entire lives drifting from one relationship to the next, trapped in the shallows — endlessly seeking proof that the other person loves them, full of suspicion and insecurity.
It is not that they are unwilling to go deeper. It is that some people’s past makes it very hard for them to believe in love — perhaps a broken childhood, perhaps wounds that have never fully healed.
Someone who has never been truly loved will find it very difficult to have enough energy to love others, or even themselves. And often, they are unaware of this. If you don’t know a problem exists, how can you begin to solve it?
And so there will be countless beginnings, and inevitably countless endings. In the end, exhausted and weary, you are still repeating the same story with slight variations.
Love flows only toward those who are not lacking in love…
The Restless Mind
At the core of all these problems is our inner restlessness. A restless state of mind means we are unable to settle into the present moment. We are either worrying about the future or dwelling in the past — negating and judging things that have already happened — a “monkey mind” we cannot tame.
Do not try to find the answers in others. If we keep looking outward, we will inevitably become lost, wandering further and further in the wrong direction.
At this moment, what can help you find the answers — the simplest and most direct path — is to return inward, to start from within yourself. Some say: “These are empty words. We all know this. But what specifically do we do?” After all, the moment you say “I want to live in the present!” — that present has already passed.
The Meaning of Now
This is a truth many of us overlook: many things do not need to have meaning. Eating, drinking, and enjoying life is not the same as wasting time; enduring hardship is not the same as living a meaningful life. When we cannot tame our “monkey mind” — when our thoughts race and anxiety drains us — remember: life is simply the accumulation of various experiences.
If you feel like it, you can do things that seem meaningless: space out, watch the sunrise and sunset, slowly savor a cup of tea, breathe in the air of nature. Your experience in this present moment is the greatest meaning of all.
If you slowly cultivate this habit of self-regulation, you will gradually find your own inner rhythm. The greatest turning point in life begins on the day you truly fall in love with yourself, and allow everything to simply be.
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